Our goal is to learn how to ask for what we want; be able to resist pressure from others;
and maintain our point of view.
Using the DEAR MAN Skill
- Describe the SITUATION/PROBLEM; stick to the facts
- Express your FEELINGS and OPINIONS about the situation; don’t assume the other person knows how you feel
- Assert yourself by ASKING for what you want; don’t assume the other person knows what you want
- Reinforce your request by focusing on why your request is important to you
- Mindful – Keep your focus on YOUR REQUEST; don’t be distracted or let them get you off topic
- Appear Confident, EVEN IF YOU DON’T FEEL IT; no whispering; no stammering, no staring at the floor
- Negotiate – Be willing to GIVE something TO GET something; ask for other solutions to the problem; focus on what will work
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